Why is this?
I brought this question up in a meeting at work the other day, where there are all KINDS of smart people who have PhDs in these kinds of things. One cognitive scientist-type I work with said that visual cues play more of a part in our auditory conversations than we think. For example, while I could see Warren coming into the room to ask about his keys, Gail couldn't. She didn't pause in her part of the conversation and I had no way to signal her with eyes, a head-turn, or anything, that I need a half-second to divide my attention.
Then I thought about instant messaging, where again, we don't see one another. There are two things that immediately come to mind that have tremendously helped to make instant messaging more like talking:
- The emoticons. As we know, a picture is worth a thousand words. And there are so many to choose from now - it's great to have a wink, a smile, or a sad face to express instantly what might not be able to be put in words. Call this a 'virtual visual cue' that you can send WITHOUT feeling like you're interrupting someone who's chatting.
- The message on the status screen that the other person is writing. Perhaps you're in a multi-person chat and you're writing something. Half-way through, you see that another person is writing. That's a visual cue that perhaps someone wants to add something, has a question, or needs a clarification. No one has 'said' anything but you can see that you might need to pause.